“Weeks into lockdown- people have the opportunity to control their time.”- Leonard Lebere
Opportunity is always surrounding us, our biggest responsibility is that we have to see it before we can seize it. Time has become that opportunity for many people. Time during lockdown has little-to-non factors weighing down on it, this transition has moved planning and power into the hands of the individual- opportunity on a golden plate.
Before lockdown, one of the biggest challenges was planning and establishing accuracy in a daily/weekly schedule. If was difficult to predict whether traffic would take 15 min or 50 min to reach your intended destination. In my case it was home to campus.
What many people are experiencing now is a ‘sense of control’, not putting aside the impact that isolation can have on people, but many people can agree that time is really in their hands now.
The most obvious distractions can now be parked in the right place with a lot of discipline and focus. I know my biggest time consumer was traveling in between school to home and home to church. On average, I would spend about 500min/week (8.3 hours) in some form of transportation. The change is now that its lock down, the only time I have no real control over, is when I go out to get essentials which is not every day- as far as biweekly sometimes.
This means that I can intentionally do work in a well-defined space without worrying about the factors that would normally affect my planning and sense of urgency towards a task. I can study with little distractions too. I guess over the past 6 weeks, if there was a point of no productivity it was mostly because of my negligence and not time that was slipping away.
Why am I writing this specific blog? I think if become people become aware of the major advantages and privileges this quarantine came with, then I believe that they would have the opportunity to slightly change the trajectory of their lives. And I use slightly for the pessimist who wouldn’t believe that its totally possible to revamp your life an intentions in this time. A project that would take 6 weeks to complete can now take 6 days to complete because of the degree that has come into our hands.
And while many people are freaking out, the question we need to ask is very simple, “What do we have control over and what we not have control over?” Here is a perspective, no one can control the peak time of this virus or even when the virus will subside. What we actually have control over is ‘how we respond’ to this virus and part of that has to do with how we handle and see time.
I must say that this blog is not there to insensitively turn a blind eye on the notable ramifications of quarantine and lock down, after reading this blog I hope that people will realise that it is time to rebuild.
I’ll close off with this train of thought to encourage your next action. “People are so anxious to improve their circumstances. But they never improve themselves, they therefore remain bound and overtaken by factors they have control over. If you deny yourself the opportunity to grow and develop, you will fossilize and eventually die. Adapting to change have strongly transitioned from being an option to being a means of survival.”
“An optimistic perspective in these challenging times.”- Leonard Lebere
The Coronavirus has succeeded in being the world’s most consistent element of life- change. Everyone and almost everything has been experiencing change since this became a Global Pandemic.
If we deny change we choose to live in the past and delay our active participation of the change happening around us.
Nothing is being done the way it used to get done. The dynamics of schooling and education has changed. Businesses have remodeled their plans. And funny enough, we don’t even greet the way we do. These are the smallest signs that people all around the world are adapting to the change.
Even though there is a series of changes happening around us, we need to keep our heads up high in these times. This might be easier to say than to do. We need to wake up to the opportunities that are presenting themselves now.
There are opportunities for growth (personally, in business, in leadership or as a brand) in this testing time. Our view of whether this is an opportunity or not will fully depend on how we see change.
Many people have always wanted the rest or promised that they would carry out generous actions if they ‘had more time’. Well, here we are- now what?
“Change, depending on how you see it can either be the arrival of opportunity or the invasion of destruction.
Myles Munroe, The benefits of change.
So my question to you while you’re home is this: “Is your glass of water half full or half empty in this time?” Depending on how you see it we’ll have our assurance when life is back to normal again.
“Time can actually cost you money.”- Leonard Lebere
I noticed a funny trend when I was late for class this one week. The realisation was that I tend to spend more money on a day when I am late in the morning. This obviously different from when I am on time or early. Here is what I mean…
When I am late for class, I tend to be more rushed, which means that in the morning I do not get to do everything I would like to do: eating breakfast, reading my bible, exercising and going over my tasks for the day. As a consequence there is a huge disorientation to my day. This means that I get hungry about 2 hours after leaving home, I am not so sure what I planned to do for the day, which induces stress on me just in the first few hours.
I believe in eating Breakfast, so when I do not eat breakfast, I will intentionally go out of my way to spend money on buying a well-balanced breakfast to get me through the first few hours of the day.
Now because I was late, this would also mean that I get hungrier by lunch and as I did not get a chance to finalize my lunch box, I am again forced to spend money to buy a much overpriced meal on campus.
And somewhere in between my classes, I might feel a bit tired because I did not get to exercise in the morning which pushes me now to spend money on a cup coffee, an energy drink (which I drink probably once a month) or high sugar content chocolate.
I discovered that being late is costly and I chose to write this blog when I asked myself how soon an individual go can broke after being late for an uncountable amount of days in a week or a month.
I took this thought further and highlighted how the cost implications can be greater when the burden is different. Think about someone who drives an expensive car and drives over the speed limit in the name of making it on time for a meeting. Anything could happen with a scenario like this. The truth is, this individual would save money and avoid causing an accident, if they just woke up a bit earlier.
I believe that when we wake up early and arrive on time for our scheduled events (classes, meetings, flights), we wake up on top of the day and we get to dictate how we use our time in the morning and what we deem a priority. With a day where we wake up late, the reality is that the day would then be on top of us!
A morning routine is easy to follow when it is there, it might not always be fulfilled but at least you willhave direction about how you wish to start your day.
Wake up early, see how you save a bit of time and money.
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“What we watch, listen to, read and talk about can accelerate our desire towards the unknown.”- Leonard Lebere
Two or three generations back, in the times when my grandparents lived. The economy was slightly different, the spreading of information was much slower than what it is now and there weren’t many global epidemics that were beyond the scope of organizations and political parties. This meant that the motive for buying, owning, achieving, reaching was way different then than what it is now in your times as teenagers.
When my generation was at its prime (2020), people had a desire to own more things because of the public recognition they would get for owning that thing. The aim of generosity became more about reverence than what it was about uplifting someone.
As my children, I always tell you that just because I talk about these things, it’s not like I was immune to them and never tempted to do them. My standard of a perfect man is Christ and by talking to you, I am doing my due diligence in ensuring that you turn out to be healthy-value-adding individuals to society.
The idea behind accelerated desires is found in our motives for chasing after certain things in life. Accelerated desires are things that prompt you to be in a season different to where you are right now, so this can be both positive and ultimately negative. The root of accelerated desires is found in the ‘world’ we choose to make as immediate: school, work, social media, family, etc. Accelerated desires in your life can be exposed by how you react when someone has what you do not have or simply where you wish your life could be had you had certain opportunities.
“Accelerated desires are things that prompt you to be in a season different to where you are right now, so this can be both positive and ultimately negative.”
Social Media, Television, friends in class, going to work with me- all these aspects can give you an indication of the “life you are missing out on”. On social media, an accelerated desire can be desiring to dress in a certain way or to have a certain group of friends to be popular. From television, you can start questioning why your mom and I don’t drive a G-Wagon or why we are not living in expensive neighbourhoods as a family. Your friends in class can accelerate your desire to have a boyfriend prematurely or even entice you to break your virginity prematurely based on the stories they share with you. Going to work, you might see how affluent certain people are and begin to wonder what is stopping me from reaching that level of life. And these are all the bad examples. The ones we consider negative.
On the flip side, accelerated desires can also be positive. With social media, you might see how philanthropists help refugees and then your desires becomes to be extremely wealthy so that you can help people in need as well. On television, it could be that you hear a hard working sports star talk about how being disciplined in their sports helped reach their peak in their respective sports. Your friends in class might have a higher average than you and this gives you a drive to work even harder as a leaner (whose expensive school fees is paid by your mom and I). Going to work with me, you might notice how there are so many positions in a company and then this gives you a desire to become a sector specialist in a subject area you are passionate about.
My heart behind this letter, is to make you aware that there can be sources of accelerated desires that you might not even be aware of. In all that you do find the positive accelerated desires and do not let the negative ones overtake your season of being young.
May there never be a shadow of a doubt that we as your parents believe in you! You are going to do way better than what we are actually dreaming for you!
Regards from the very parents that would whip your arse and… still pray for you!
“A good week can only be what you make of it.”- Leonard Lebere
I have heard so many people talk about a bad week and/or a good week. Many people never really complain about having a good week, but instead their challenge always comes when they had a ‘bad week’. I am not excluded from the people who have had a bad week, however, I realised one thing, many people have not set up the metrics for a good week and bad week. This was alarming, to think that I was also in the mix of those people who did not have a set standard for what a good week is and what a bad week is. I had to do something about this.
Jordan Peterson, a clinical psychologist and a well-respected thinker once said, “Disappointment is the price we pay for standards.” In the context of this quote, would it then be possible to be disappointed or even excited about a week when no standard have been set? This is as close to running a race with no finish line as it is to being disappointed about having a bad week when no metrics are in place.
“Disappointment is the price we pay for standards.”
With this thought I personally took time to reflect and meditate on my personal metrics of a good week. After a few days, I got my metrics in place and I finally got to define my ‘Golden Week’. My measuring stick of a good week started coming from these set standards. What I found to be true is that, it became easier to get disappointed and/or to rejoice over a week that has passed.
We all need to take time to set the metrics of what a good week actually is. It can really range from: being able to run 4 days a week to feeling rested over the weekend. There is no set rule as to what the standards should be since our lives are all so different.
May we not get caught, constantly shifting and moving the standard for a good week, because when we do this, we can easily drive ourselves into negativity and never be fulfilled about the quality of work we have produced in a given week. Remember that we can only get disappointed when we have standards in place.
So next time someone says their week was good or bad, ask them this, “What would you define as a good week? What are the metrics of a good week?”
“Classroom attention is so divided.”- Leonard Lebere
Let me tell you a story:
The Bell rings, they go from one class to another. The English teacher is waiting patiently for students to arrive in her class and when they arrive, they walk in like soldiers ready to fight in a war- so we think. After taking their seats, the teacher does a recap of the lesson from the last period she met the class and in this time (5 minutes in) everyone is paying attention.
After 8 min in the class, their impatience and psyche starts taking over. Their fingers start to twitch, like addicts who need another dose, but their drug is right in their pockets- the all mighty and powerful Smartphone.
They can’t help but wonder how many likes they got from that picture they posted when the bell rang, or if their friend actually replied to that meme they sent earlier. For them in that class room, attention is nothing more than a pizza slice. They are willing to do anything that will take them away from being present in that classroom and listening.
The classroom is cursed with a short attention span. It’s the thinnest slice of pizza available.
“Doing nothing is the best way to let a skill deteriorate and have nothing to be criticized about.”- Leonard Lebere
At this point, I have lost count of how many people I meet who still (years later) have not started or acted on the idea they once told me about. An idea is still nothing if it does not manifest. There are two major ideas that come with doing nothing: practice and criticism.
Having an idea for a blog is not the same as having a blog. The person with the idea does not have an environment where they can continually sharpen their skill, the skill can then deteriorate. The person with the blog (whatever the quality of writing) has a playground with jungle bars and if they fall and hit the ground- they would have learned a new way to navigate the playground. This is certainly better than choosing to fold your arms and not deciding to play with the other kids.
I wrote my first Blog January 2017, it was not perfect, I still cringe and laugh when I read some of the blogs I have written over the years. I used to write with no schedule, one article this month and another after a few months. Then I realised that I need to show up in my writing and do so consistently, that’s why I started writing blogs every single week- whether I felt like it or not. To date I have published over 50 blogs and a combined total of over 32 000 words. My plan is very simple, “Write, get better even if no one reads it!”
The idea of a perfect start is a naïve concept. There is no perfect start. There has probably never been a perfect start to anything, for anyone. I think it is absurd to think that there are some people who want to be the first to have a perfect start to any idea that they have. This ideological fallacy must be destroyed.
So, practice is the first part of doing nothing. When you do nothing, you cannot practice whatever skill you have and eventually the skill could deteriorate or be harder to use when you need it most.
The second part is criticism.
When you have nothing to share, you have nothing people can criticise. You simply give people nothing, to criticise. Criticising an idea can help refine the idea. Criticising an idea can bring the idea closer to perfect, but perfect would not matter if the idea is not acted on. On the other hand, criticising something that has already been produced (which probably took courage to produce) can give hope and a bit of optimism can rise in the person who produced it.
I have also noticed that people do not know who to take criticism from because they try to produce work that is for everyone. The plan of trying to reach the mass market can work against the person trying to produce a body of work. Trying to go toowide and shooting for the biggest pool can miss the whole point of originally producing the work. The “Mass Market” will always have a lot to say. A mass audience will always have their preference. For criticism to be constructive- narrow is the way.
I am still learning how to be a good writer, I invite critique (more on my use of language than on the ideas) to become a better writer. However, I try my best not to sit and watch 10 000 hours of YouTube videos on how to write a blog and then never end up witting a single blog. When I do watch videos on writing, I also do not make the mistake of thinking that I am getting better at writing just by watching videos. I get better by actually writing.
So when I decide to publish a book, I will do so knowing that it is better to have a book than to linger with an idea for 5 years.
There are many areas in which we can see this maxim through, I used writing because that is what I am most exposed to. Think critically about the areas in which you wish to improve but no work is being done.
When a conversation is sensible, everyone wants to have something to say. Most of the time what people end up saying is not what was originally needed. So, when you challenge the opinion of the person that shares the information, they would normally defend themselves by saying, “Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and beliefs.
We have all heard that line and we all remember people who have said that line, but there is a great reality- you are not entitled to your own opinion.
This line -like how you get a blister from running in the wrong shoes- comes up when people do not what to be challenged or have their beliefs confronted. This is the result of thinking about something long enough to form a paradigm.
When we think about this topic, we will have to agree on definitions. So what is an opinion. The essence of an opinion is that it is subjective and has a high degree of uncertainty. This is why it becomes so difficult to challenge or defend an opinion.
There is a danger about wearing a shirt that has a statement as bold as, “You are entitled to your own opinion.” Being entitled to your own opinion can diminish your cognitive ability to recognize when you are too convinced about something and you can also miss the cue for noticing when your opinion has become indefensible.
It becomes a short hand for saying, “I can say what I think and no one can stop me from thinking this way.” And thinking like this suggests that if we continue to challenge your opinion, then we are disrespecting you. I guess it is a bit absurd to extend our thinking that far out.
“You are entitled to what you can defend.”
In our world today, there are opinions that have no domain to be argued, that is mostly in taste and preference. I cannot dispute the idea that you like Carrot Cake more than Chocolate Cake. Where do you even start when you want to tackle an opinion like that. on the other hand saying, “Global warming is affecting how we live on earth and is costing governments Billions in finances.” This can be considered as an “opinion”that has room for argument.
We need to move away from making facts out of opinions. This act threatens having room for a reasonable argument. When we are not hard on this standard, we end up having people who make conclusions on mistaken beliefs.
We need a smooth transition for having a sound argument. We need to move from, “You are entitled to your opinion.” to “You are entitled to what you can defend.”
“Here, one reason why the educational system is failing countries.”- Leonard Lebere
Think with me for a moment, what is a presumption?
Presumption- the fruit of familiarity- is the act of drawing conclusions without concrete evidence.
Since we’re not super humans we can assert that most of our decisions are based on a presumptions premise of some sort.
Here is where education comes in. The design of the educational system today, helps learners generate thoughts and they forsake the idea of becoming thinkers. They therefore become good repeaters of conclusions but never develop the whit to come up with those kinds of conclusion.
Let learners solve interesting problems!!
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“The best bet is just to know a lot about a lot!”- Leonard Lebere
What are the chances of standing in the line waiting for your coffee and the person in front of you happens to be working for the Russian Government and is an expert in Nuclear Science?? The possibility of this being a reality is very low. We soon find these kind of people to be boring and self interested, I guess sometimes we just want to hear from someone who knows why Government tax is increasing or which team will win the league in sports. This calls for being a ‘Polymath’.
There are many definitions for the word and idea behind a Polymath, but the simplest explanation is, “A Polymath is simply someone who knows a lot about a lot– has an understanding of different topics.”
These are the people others like meet, the kind of people that can meet them on their level. A bricklayer standing in line would want to talk to you about that WhatsApp video a friend of his sent him, while a Financial Banker in the same line would instead prefer to talk to you about overlooked investment options for the middle class.
The Key idea here is that we need to learn to be specialists where it matters and often times, in a line where people are carrying less than 10 items, the conversation does not have sound like a deep lecture. Just know a lot about a lot, people will find you more interesting.
I think I came to this conclusion when I was thinking about what I really Blog about and what I discovered is that I Blog about a whole range of topics- so I think I’m on route to being a Polymath.
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“Here’s why the idea of liking a picture with no caption is absurd!”- Leonard Lebere
Have you ever been on social media and seen a post with no caption. As in, the only thing you get to see from that post is the picture? I have struggled with this ideas of seeing posts with no captions and I found the root of the idea very disturbing. But now, I can finally say that I found a solution to posts like that and an analogy explaining why they do not make sense at all.
Here’s one way to think about it…
Imagine receiving a letter from a friend you last saw 3 years ago. It so happens that this friend now lives overseas and you did not know that they moved overseas until you received the letter 3 months after it was written. And to your surprise, with tears in your eyes, asking no one to disturb you and having a genuine desire to read this letter with all your available attention- you find that it has no words!
You may be asking yourself, “A letter without words?” That’s absurd! Is it really…?
Let’s take this a bit further to see how this no caption idea does not make sense.
Now think about your favorite author, in my case let’s take Bill Gates. If Bill Gates, with all he has accomplished in philanthropy and business, decided to publish a book and this book would have nothing more than his face on the cover page. The inner pages of the book would be filled with the smell of fresh paper,no words, no title- just a picture? Would I want to buy that book? Or even consider writing a review for it?
Or buying a CD that has no songs?
Or maybe watching series that has no story line?
Why would we end up doing this? It’s absurd on one end, but then it’s socially endorsed on the other end. If it’s done by a cable network, we would ridicule them and want our money back, but on social media we encourage such behavior when we click that like button.
Who is the problem? The person who posts the picture or the people who end up liking? I will let you decide on that one.
My solution is very simple. I stopped liking pictures with no captions! My time on Social Media is very limited, my Instagram has been set with a limit of 40min a day and no activity over weekends. So it would not make sense for me to give attention to and even like a picture with no caption. If I do then I would be endorsing the social chaos that is being produced by social media.
This is why before I post anything on social media, I ask myself, “What’s the purpose & who is the audience?” I would rather not post anything unless I have these questions answered.
… before you post a picture with no caption, ask yourself if you would read a letter that has no words.
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“How Television, Social Media and the Internet has pacified us from contributing to society through creativity.”- Leonard Lebere
“I would rather go watch a movie than buy another book.” It is quite sad to think that there are people who still think like this- who value entertainment over personal growth. People would rather bore, charm, distract or amuse themselves with entertainment that is uncensored and will not benefit them. These are the people that choose to amuse themselves instead of finding ways to develop themselves.
Let me be clear about what I am not saying. I am not saying, “You cannot have any fun in your life
and that you need to be so focused that you live the most boring life
possible.” I pointing to the order of importance that many have developed
because of an extreme lack of critical thinking, in this case, critical
thinking being, ‘the thought of challenging what has already been established as important.’
Watching Television is amusing.
Social Media is amusing.
Being on the internet the whole day is amusing.
You do not really need a level of skill or intelligence to
do amusing things.
Unfortunately, you will need a bit of discretion to actively put measures of development in your life to
reach your preferred future. John Maxwell said, “If you do not create the
future you want you must endure the future you get.”
It will take a bit of discipline for one to redirect their
finances to shift from spending a lot of money on that which is entertaining to that which is considered
as developmental. There has to be a level of intentionality to bring this change to
The flip side is that you can start.
The first step is just to spend less time and money on the amusing tasks.
“The weight of questions in the middle of a conversation.”- Leonard Lebere
Whenever I listened to someone who talks fast (so I would assume), I would always ask myself, “Am I listening slowly or is this person speaking fast?” As a public speaker myself, the conclusion I came to was that people generally listen slow because if someone speaks fast then you get twice the value in just as much time. This is a paradox right? Do you agree? No answer in right (our educational system must have this approach). What we need to discuss is this: What is it about questions that makes a conversation even more exciting and direct.
When a question is asked and then answered, a need is met
because understanding would (in that
specific time) replace confusion. A
good strategy would be to prepare questions in advance. Sometimes it might be
the only chance you get, to ask that specific question. If you were to meet
Bill Gates (my hero in philanthropy), what would you ask him that has not been
asked before? If you knew you were to meet The
President of your country, using questions, in which direction would you
want to steer an open conversation?
I am of the conviction that the way/wording in which a
question is asked is a direct reflection of the depth of thought that went into
the topic itself.
The challenge is not that people do not know how to ask
questions that catch the attention of the speaker, but that they do not ask questions at all.
These are questions I constantly think about because, who
knows, maybe one day…
What question do you have for me?
My question to you is:
Why is the education system failing children?
How do we interpret change in our current
Has attention become a commodity and how do we
weigh its value?
Thank you for reading, I swear I will answer whatever
question you might have.
“When you step into another man’s house acknowledge the man of the house before you make known why you are there.”- Leonard Lebere
Greeting is powerful. At times, it can go as far as making
someone’s day or changing the mood in the room based on how energetic you
greet. I want to write this letter to you to encourage to greet whenever you
step into another man’s house.
I remember once having an opportunity to escort a high
profile celebrity from his car. He was at a school where I was tutoring
Mathematics at the time. The learners had gathered in a designated area of the
school and his organizers arranged that he would come and perform a few songs
then give away a few tickets in promotion of his tour. So he showed up late
(first problem) then when he had to come out of the car, his body guards surrounded
him immediately. The alarming thing for me is that there were 4 staff members
(myself included) that he failed to greet (second problem) when he stepped out
I thought to myself that, “Maybe he would acknowledge the
principal and teacher when he holds the mic to perform.” And to my surprise (I
was surprised because I was disappointed and disappointed because I had an
expectation) he did not acknowledge anyone on the mic. Not the principal, not
the teachers, not even the learners he had to perform to.
As an International Leader, having had the opportunity to
speak in many places and on many platforms, I have learned that it is important
to acknowledge the person or people who gave you the platform to speak. So
every time I would speak, I would use a huge part of my time in the
introduction to observe protocol and greet the necessary people.
I became guilty of not
greeting someone on campus. I generally walk really fast when I am on
campus and I happened to pass her without immediately noticing that it was
someone I knew. She greeted me, but I had a stupid
grin on my face and I noticed late that she actually greeted me. So I had
to do something uncomfortable so remind myself that I am a man of principles.
So I messaged her on Instagram and got her a small chocolate to express how sorry I was for simply not greeting. It might sound a bit
far-fetched but I guess that is the sacrifice of being principled.
One day, you will go through something similar, a situation
where you will need to greet first. When you need to get a girl for your ball
at school or one day when you need to ask your girlfriend’s (after you’re 21)
parents for the blessing of marrying their daughter. The greeting will always
be a part of it. Never forget that whenever you walk into another man’s house,
you need to acknowledge that man before you make known why you are there.
I hope that you’ll be an absolute gentleman and an example
to your peers. I believe in you! I always have!
“Our attitude towards free items is different to that which is paid for.”- Leonard Lebere
The last word a business man/woman would want to hear is Free. “Man parts way with his Ferrari for free.” A news article many people (even those who are not fans of sports cars, like myself) would want to read. The benchmark and expectation for that which is free is different to that which was costly.
Free is really a paradox in itself.
I have seen people download books or movies and somehow
forget what they were all about… This is the unfortunate reality of that which is free.
When something is costly, there is often depth to it. Where
it came from, who made and why it was originally made.
So the question is not only, “Would you drive a free
Ferrari?” but also, “Would you read and finish a free book?” or “Would you take
a free online course and get distinction?” How about, “Would you want to
graduate in record time if your university fees were free?”
If given the
opportunity, rather pay for something
of value than expect to find it somewhere for free.
Thank you for reading, I swear maybe one day I will have a
course that will cost you $28.
“Live television does not care about your schedule. It cares about its viewing.” –Leonard Lebere
I stopped watching live television, as a matter of fact, I
have totally stopped watching television. When I realised that LIVE television
does not care about my schedule, I learned the power of personalized viewing- the
ability to watch what I want when I want.
I love sports, so much so, I used to watch about 10 Hour of
live sports per week. That’s about 3 Soccer matches and a tennis match (mostly
finals). The thing I found foolish was that I had the attitude of, “I don’t
want to miss any action.” as opposed to, “How’s my schedule and what do I need
to get done in this time of entertainment?”
Through modern age technology and our leaning towards a
mystical “Fourth Industrial Revolution”, POWER has been transferred to us.
Instead of watching something the exact time it airs, we have power
by being able to record and watch it when we want to watch it. Instead of
having to watch the entire soccer game, we can watch the highlights and it won’t even feel like you missed a piece of
action. Instead of watching that show at the time it airs, you can now record
it and watch it later when you have nothing important to accomplish. The best
part is that if there is a segment of the show that you find to be “useless”
then you can simple fast-forward and a show that would have taken you 1 hour with its advertisements, now only
takes you 35min to complete.
This is free time
that we can all fight for. We can
use this time to get more creative, productive and improve ourselves to meet a
worthy need in our generation. The sooner we realise that we have this kind of
power over LIVE television, the better.
So, learn to record that which you dread to watch and if you
do not have access to recording devices or personalised viewing platforms like Netflix or Amazon Prime, then I would encourage you to invest your free time wisely.
I hope you will have the courage to be more creative and
productive from making these few changes.
Thank you for reading, I swear that book will be finished
“How to easily catch up with current affairs without spending a cent.”- Leonard Lebere
People are encouraged to read newspapers to stay up to date
with what is happening in the world. Many other who don’t but the newspaper are
enticed to instead watch the News so we can stay in touch with current affairs.
This (for me at least) is redundant
at most and is a result of poor thinking in its least form.
I know of people who have never missed Prime Time News for
over ten years. There are others who never missed a day without buying a
newspaper- everyday for the past ten
years. This bothers me, only to think that one would only need about 20% of the
information to live 80% of our lives.
HERE IS WHAT I STARTED DOING:
When I want to get up to date with what is happening around
the world both in current affairs and sports- I ask. I ask with a highly inquisitive attitude. When I drive with
friends, I would ask them, “So, what’s happening in world of tech, finances and
politics?” When I meet sports fanatics, I would also ask them, “Which sports
games got the most news over the past week?” And in a matter of minutes, I
would be up to date, just as someone who watched Prime time news or even bought
Sometimes a waiter can also give you this information, so
when you get your coffee, I would encourage you to ask. You’ll save money and
Thank you for reading, I think I might have to write twice a
We are always trying to find ways of simplifying our lives. We spend hours and hours reading about how to make more money, manage time better or show to study better. The reality is that there exists a fundamental truth from all our research: Everything we try to learn has a principle.
In school: The better you pay attention, you’ll be more likely to understand.
In Business: The Higher your problem solving capabilities, you’ll be more likely to make more money
In time management: Less is more.
We can highlight a ton of principles, but I wanted to bring a different thought to your attention. What principles do you live by? This questions becomes important because it allows you to dictate life and not to let life dictate you and the amazing thing is that the principles you come up with are YOURS! No one can corner you to believe something else. I remember reading a quote that said, “Life is simple but keeping it simple is hard.”
“Life is simple but keeping it simple is hard.”
Unknown (Just a fancy way of saying, “I forgot”)
Plan the week before the week starts. Plan the month before the month starts. Plan the year before the year starts.
I will get back to you if I cannot answer immediately.
Responding after 3 days will not kill the person.
Never post an image on Social Media without a sensible caption.
Never like pictures on Social Media with NO CAPTION.
Always strive to give the card guard a NOTE and not a COIN.
At the mall,whenever you walk into a clean bathroom, hand the cleaner a generous tip and say, “Thank you.”
Tip a ridiculous amount to a waiter, 15% tip is from society and I am not society. I am Leonard.
If I cannot buy a friend a gift, construct a well thought out message for the person.
Never text any female after 22:00, unless family or emergency.
Always cover the bill if I ask someone for their time.
Be the first to apologize, even when I was not wrong.
When ever I look at my phone, I respond to my mother and family FIRST.
I could go on and on with this list, but I wanted to share just a few ideas that I use to dictate life and not have life dictate me.
What principles do you have to dictate life? What principles do you live by?
I met a ton of people over the past week who voiced how tired they all were. Tired form school, work, sports and some even said their relationships.
I read on a quote on instagram that made me understand the essence of management and why people who have better management of self go far ahead many others. It said, “Its not the load that breaks you its the way you carry it.” And from this I got to understand why management of self is so important.
“Its not the load that breaks you, its the way you carry it.”
Louis Leo Holtz, Former American Football player
So if the going gets difficult, we cannot complain about the load,because the load is stationary. We on the other hand can grow- in management especially.
“Don’t dream on debt, dream on what you have invested- in yourself.”- Leonard Lebere
I found growing up funny, as a leader I found myself in many
circles where people would always talk about what they plan to achieve in the next
however many years. The question I would always ask myself while growing up
was, “What habits do I have now, that point to the goal I want to achieve.” In
simple terms, what are you doing today to
bring your tomorrow closer?
As I write this, I also struggled with aligning my habits
with the future I anticipated. To you as my child, I am not going to put any
pressure you to have this figured out quickly. The reality is, even if you do
not get to share this with me as your father, rest assured that you will be
assessed by life itself to determine
how genuine you are. This conversation about your goals and dreams might come
up when you apply for a job, or apply for a bursary even by the parents of
someone you are considering as a life partner. I am glad that I personally
answered this question early and I write this to encourage you to answer this question too.
How are you assured that tomorrow will get better? GROWTH is
the answer; this is the ultimate assurance that tomorrow can get better.
Growing with intention (reading
books, attending seminars, planning your life and reflecting) will give me
peace as a father knowing that you will
be able to conquer challenges you face in the future. Information solves
My concluding point from the title of this letter is: some
people have not invested in themselves at all and still have the audacity to
tell people that they are going to become big shots in life. This is, “Dreaming
on DEBT/credit.” In real life, this would be people who dream solely on what
their parents can do for them or after listening to a motivational speaking,
thinking that they would change their patterns immediately without any
hindrances. They have the dream but
they do not have the habits that support
the dream. To this day, I am still thankful that your mother was not
someone who was dreaming on debt.
Contrary to that, there are people who dream and aim based
on how deep they have invested in themselves. This is who I hope you become. These people have consciously taken
challenges and tasks that stretched their capacity as individuals and gave them
the ability to dream even bigger than what they did before. These are the
people who make sure that their habits
match what they are dreaming about. This is the guy I strived to be before
I met your mother (she was just like me in this regard) and I use this same
approach to ensure that I will be a great father.
So try not to be too quick to dream on debt, focus more on investing in yourself. In
the long run, you will benefit! Your mother and I believe in you so much, we
sometimes sit and spend hours talking about how great your future is going to
“Thoughts on how we’re all leading people whether we like it or not and whether positive or negative.”- Leonard Lebere
Think about this, an
average human being in their lifetime influences at least 10 000 people
before they die. We are always trying to get people to listen to the music
we listen to, read the books we read, watch movies we have watched and even
play games we have played. This not be a big deal for you, but it certainly is
for many and this is what I wanted to bring to your attention. We’re all influencing.
There is a Chinese Proverb I recently encounter, “To know
the road ahead, ask those who are coming back.” The question I am answering is
not that of whether we are worthy of being found
as people who are influencing but that we
are the active influencers where ever we find ourselves geographically.
“To know the road ahead, ask those who are coming back.”
At times we have to break our ignorance through learning and research. As I planned to write this
blog I came across information that essentially broke my ignorance. In his
book, Kevin Hall freed me from a misconception I had carried for years. In his
Book “A Coach by Any Other Name” He
cultures and languages, coaches are known by many different names and titles.
In Japan, a “sensei” is one who has gone farther down the path. In martial arts, it is the designation for master. In Sanskrit, a “guru” is one with great knowledge and wisdom. “Gu” means darkness, and “ru” means light—a guru takes someone from darkness into the light. In Tibet, a “lama” is one with spirituality and authority to teach. In Tibetan Buddhism, the Dalai Lama is the highest-ranking teacher. In Italy, a “maestro” is a master teacher of music. It is short for “maestro de cappella,” meaning master of the chapel. In France, a “tutor” is a private teacher. The term dates to the fourteenth century and refers to one who served as a watchman. In England, a “guide” is one who knows and shows the way. It denotes the ability to see and point out the better course. In Greece, a “mentor” is a wise and trusted advisor. In The Odyssey, Homer’s Mentor was a protective and supportive counselor.
All these words describe the same role: one who goes before and shows the way
Kevein Hall, A Coach by Any Other Name
All Kevin Hall was saying is that people who
influence us, are people who simply take us from where we are to where we want
to be and the key lesson here is that we all have something to teach.
After discovering this, I had to dig deep and discovered that I have a book
to write, a podcast to record a keynote to give; not to people who are 100
years older than me, but mostly to those who are yet to walk in the
direction I have walked. This has to be some sort of encouragement to someone
who has been delaying producing work that we consider as creative.
My journey of discovery came from my quest
in learning about mentorship. I was reading 15 Laws on Invaluable Growth when
I discovered what I am sharing now. I was reminded of what I had always known,
that the English language is limited in words and therefore limited in
expression as a by-product.
“All leaders are influenced by those they admire. Reading about them and studying their traits inevitably allows an inspiring leader to develop his own leadership traits.”
So whether we like it or not, we will all die having had some level of influence and this will all be accelerated by the next industrial revolution and social media. The former New York City Mayor, Rudy Giuliani once said, “All leaders are influenced by those they admire. Reading about them and studying their traits inevitably allows an inspiring leader to develop his own leadership traits.” Eventually we have to realise that we all have something to share and I urge you to learn from my mistake of believing a complete lie.
So I hope you will write that book, start that blog, record the song, call the mentor, write the business plan, start the YouTube channel, record the podcast and essentially just realise that no matter who you are, someone is listening to you!
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“The curse of assumptions, the need for meeting demands and the importance of managing expectations.”-Leonard Lebere
Imagine making an entire cup of Chai Latté
for a guest visiting you at your home. Trying to be a professional barista and
working you hot-beverage-making skills into a cup, only to find out that the person
you made the cup for does not drink coffee. This is the curse of assumption– never
meeting a need.
Or imagine being a construction contractor who
has to build a mansion for a client and the last meeting you had with your
client, you remember them saying that they want the house in this particular
way and you agree to it. To your surprise, after spending 10 months building
and perfecting, your clients tells you that this is not what they wanted and
that they changed their minds while they had time to think about what they
want. This is again the curse of assumption- expectations change and they need to be revisited to be managed.
Even, working at a job where you are the most
liked, most enthusiastic and bringing in the most amount of energy to the
workspace. Then expecting a promotion only to realise that you were not doing
what you were hired to do or what was in your job description. This is the curse of assumption- working does not mean effective.
What about those days where you studied for
the test, spent hours and hours reviewing your notes trying to understand the
work for that test. When you were asked in class if you understand, you would
always respond positively to signal that you were really listening. This is another
curse of assumption- covering the scope
is not assurance for passing the test.
I am trying to get to a central fact, “Do not assume-
ask- so that you can meet a need!”
“There is a new kind of healthy, the kind that has to do with our interaction with social media and the use technology”-Leonard Lebere
Social Media and Killing Millennials
“There is a new kind of healthy, the kind that has to do
with our interaction with social media and the use technology”-Leonard Lebere
Everything has a good and a bad. There is one area, however,
that is often overlooked because it requires deep research to actually
understand why this is. Healthy and Unhealthy, this is often where and how many
people make decisions about what to consume and what to reject. For some people
they will follow the vast majority as if to say, “Let the majority decide what
I need as an individual.” Due to all the changes we have experienced in technology
over the past 10 years, we need to realise that there is a new kind of healthy-
it has to do with social media.
What happened to critical thinking, deep research, delayed
gratification and many other psychological booster that actually brought more
good than harm to our day and age? It seems like these topics have become
novelties, where they are talked about and treated as if they have never existed
in our society. From my perspective, social media has pacified (weakened the
will of) many people in my generation. This did not happen instantly but gradually.
I talked about Novelties in my previous blog.
The height of insanity is doing the same thing over and
expecting different results. Now due to the changes in technology, we need to
have a conversation about our new form of communication. We would be insane to
think that we can forever interact with social media in a passive way and this
would not affect our health or well-being.
Boundaries keep us
safe and anything that has a popular
world view needs boundaries because often the people who create it won’t have
a conversation with the public about the bad side. It’s like how restaurants
will never stop you from ordering 10
cool drinks with high sugar levels, even if they knew that you had Sugar
The aim of this blog is not to introduce an entire solution
to this problem that we are facing, but instead, to bring about an awareness
about how our increased use of social media is doing more harm than good if we
interact with it using little to no boundaries.
This thought came to me while I was listening to Cal Newport
who can be considered as an expert in millennials and the changes that they
face. He is a very successful author, with multiple best sellers but he has no social media account (to
think that this is even possible in this social media day and age). You can find him at
I was doing my research about a hypothesis and I
intentionally pursued listening to a guy like Cal Newport. While he spoke and
answered many of the questions I had, I realised that I did not stumble upon that information but instead I pursued it- then I found it. The disease of Social Media is that
it has become a pure pacifier for
people who want to learn a specific niche of work. You do not get to see what
you really want to see (unless you search really deep for it), instead you
often see what is mostly available and that in itself is a problem because that
means that what you see first is dictated by a couple of algorithms derived
from your likes and dislikes.
The social media giant, Facebook, is currently undergoing a
settlement of Five Billion Dollars ($5Bn) for privacy breaches. I then realised
that for any service that we use,
regulation is key.
We need to dig into the future of technology and social
media to understand where we might need to use boundaries to ensure safe and
healthy use of a product or service. We also need this to avoid unnecessary
abuse due to unhealthy consumption and use of something many people are not
willing to learn about. We need to decide what
we want for ourselves or else others
will. We cannot afford to put the fate of our lives and health in algorithms
and social media platforms, neither can we actually allow them (or it) to
determine what we need even though they do not know us.
Increase our awareness about the healthy use of social media
so that your choice is decided for by you and not algorithms or someone with a
1 Million followers.
There is a new kind of healthy, this healthy has to do with
social media. Are you healthy in this
“We more likely to fail if we treat proven ideas as novelties.”- Leonard Lebere
We live in a digital time, everything around us is getting: smaller, faster and more expensive. We have access to more information than what we could have ever imagined as a generation. Books, YouTube, Blogs and now Podcasts have all accelerated the pace at which we receive new information. The paradox is that with all this “access” to information, we somehow still seem to fail as a generation.
■ .n novelty (pl. novelties)– 1. the quality of being new and unusual. 2. A new or unfamiliar thing: in 1914 air travel was still a novelty.
Pocket Oxford Dictionary 3rd Edition.
The reality is that if we forever sow the seed of treating information as a novelty then the harvest
will more likely be failure because we do not want to convince ourselves that
proven ideas can work in today’s day.
People pay $1000s to watch someone tell them the ultimate
secret of how they built a successful business or lived a significant life.
Then the information received is often
known, but many remain shocked thinking that (hard work, focus, discipline,
vision) the advice is too simple for them to reach a level of success. Can it
really be that easy?
We therefore simply fail because the most proven ideas on
life and success get treated as novelties- assessed as foreign information.
Instead we should become challenged by what we already know and practice (with
great focus) the information that already exists inside our brains where memory
What can we become if
we treated credible information (proven over years by different people) as a call-to-action and not just a novelty?
I hope this blog will stir a conversation about why we fail and what actions will most likely lead to failure. If we have not read last week’s blog about patience, click here then press the like button below if this blog got you thinking.
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“A blog about the true nature of patience.”- Leonard Lebere
There was a time when baking was not done as frequently as
today because of the time it took to get all the ingredients ready for the
oven. Not only was it the gathering of the ingredients but also the precision
required for a successful bake. My generation, the millennial generation, has
changed everything into a microwave timeframe. “Instant” quickly turned into
one of the best words that describes us as a generation. So this blog, this
specific blog, is about the one thing most millennials lack- Patience.
A friend from high school called me earlier in the month of
June and he asked if I had any blogs on this topic. At the time I was not sure
if I did because I had already written so many blogs over the past year alone,
so I committed to at least write a blog about the topic as that lengthy phone
call inspired a quest for discovery and got me thinking.
Perspective is everything. Our paradigms run deep through
our subconscious. How we view time then,
will determine whether or not we become successful. Time can then be
considered as a success predictor. The essence of viewing time in a healthy way
is perseverance. When listening to
anyone who has built something great, one of the most common ideas that come
from interviews that investigate their success is how they talk about time as a
long term tactic of reaching a goal.
If we had to account for the origin of impatience in our lives,
where would the root point to? I
find it fundamental to understand the root of a challenge so that if we treat
it we know exactly where to direct our energy and also be able to measure the
Industrial revolutions and the technological age has caused
a major shift in culture and communication. Our concept of Google now in the
age of microwaves is not the same as the concept of Google back when you had to
use an entire oven to bake the perfect cake. In the oven days thorough reading
and synaptic analysis provided the generation before us with depth and
appreciation of discovery because of the time it took to discover something
new. So technological advancement is one
aspect; the other one has to be our interaction with social media. I find it
funny that we have been deceived to think that we are consumers of social media
when instead we have become the actual products for these platforms and our
attention is a commodity- like products on a shelf. Quick Updates and
refreshing feeds has –over time- introduced an instantaneous paradigm which
ultimately birthed what we now know as impatience.
We can think of impatience is an umbrella that covers a few
areas: Relationships, Product Building and Significance.
In relationships both romantic and friendships through the
internet and social media, it has become so much easier to desire the final
product –which is intimacy– than
what it has become being able to persevere with an individual through certainty
and uncertainty. We then see patterns where people would rather not confront
problems to maintain a relationship because it has the image of ‘the final
Product building has birthed unrealistic time frames for
desired profits; people who start anything that aims to add value (be it a
business providing a service or launching an actual product) give up within the
first 999 days of starting the business or building the product. It takes time
to perfect a skill or to establish yourself as an expert in a field but
impatience has made a fable out of anything that describes itself as ‘long
Our drive to inspire others even if we may have built anything
notable has become one of the biggest illusions we have come up with in terms
of having a geographical impact in all spheres of the lives that we live. If we
had to think about it, people who get Life Time Awards and are recognized by
their countries, are people who once put
in the work and were never
recognized for more years. So much so that if any millennial had to be put
in that time with those long timelines, they would rather give up than be
described as patient or persevering.
Sometimes topics can become abstract far beyond the r scope
of our understanding. Without point blank examples we can easily forget even the
issue we are trying to address and what this issue looks like when we need to
put it to practice or test it in real life simulation. This is why I presented
the examples above.
What is the solution to all of this millennial chaos?
We need to encourage deep thinking when it comes to topics like these. Taking time to process the already existing information on a topic like this will lead to much more refined answers and aligning deep thoughts that lead to actual learning. So reading this blog is not enough, maybe you might just have to take out a pen, a paper and ask yourself tough questions about areas you might have been impatient about. I would encourage you to read my blog about Reflection if you are uncertain about where to start.
TO BUILD A HABIT.
It takes a minimum of 63 days to form a
habit and it takes about 21 days for your brain to rewire and get acquainted
with the habit you are trying to build. This is why people can start gym
session and quit in 2 weeks often because they have not given their brains the
opportunity to get acquainted with their new habit. It takes time to build
DIFFERENTLY ABOUT FAILURE.
With the right perception, failure does nothing more than give us feedback about a risk we are taking that we would not normally take. I wrote a Blog called The Fake Fantasy of Failure highlighting this very idea. View failure as a learning opportunity rather than a defining moment or a road block. The bend at the end of the curve is only fatal when you fail to make the turn.
SETTING & VISION.
When it comes to setting goals and healthy
benchmarks for yourself remember that sometimes there is never an unrealistic
goal, simply an unrealistic deadline. So… “If things take longer than planned,
adjust- do not panic.” Dr Caroline Leaf
Time does not
have to control us, we have the power to control time. Nothing worthwhile happens quick or
instantaneously. We need to realise that the things that we really want take longer to get and are
harder to work for. May you grow in your journey of being patient and may this
blog not be a deep excuse for being passive towards our goal.
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“The digital age has created a passive learning environment.”- Leonard Lebere
Information helps us solve uncertainty. The more we know,
the more problems we can solve. But the digital age has pacified most millennials.
We have become more talents at gathering information than what we have in using
the information we gather. It becomes easier to recognize that we are a
generation surrounded by dead tools (useless
information). Could this be the next epidemic to our intellectual communities?
When fighting in a war often times the side with the most resources might lose a few battles but they always win the war? The reality is that the side that uses their resources with skill and precision always win. Through this we understand that having information tools is not enough and could not match the aggression of using the tools we are surrounded by.
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“Podcasts and what we listen to affect how we think, feel and choose.”- Leonard Lebere
Remember the old cassette tapes. The ones that, at times,
had to be manually turned back when the tape reached the end. The cassette
player could only playback what was on the tape. Our minds are exactly like
this, they only play back what we have been feeding ourselves. This is where
this new form of media comes in- Podcasts.
Podcasts differ the same way written blogs differ, the only
difference between a Blog and a Podcast is that one is read and the other is
listened to. So in simple English we can say that a Podcast is a Blog that is
in an Audio form and it can have many variations because it does not have a
principled fixed format.
We should care about podcast if we are people who have an
end goal of being time conscious and being people who use our time wisely. Traditional
Radio is slowly losing its ability to influence our minds with positive news
and impactful information that will make us happy when we think about in our
quiet times. People who decide to listen to podcasts are people who have
decided to take control of what they feed their minds because all that information
(the one processed) gets played back like a cassette tape.
People who listen to podcasts are those who have committed
to lifelong learn and have established a premise that education outside of the
classroom is most meaningful and impactful. People like you and me value depth
in subject matter and not just one or two facts, we are after the whole cake
with icing and its recipe.
At the end of the day when we look at our lives, we need to
realise that our speech and conduct is merely a product of what we have been
listening to, the brain in turn, becomes the cassette player playing back
everything that we have recorded on our mental tape. Choose wisely- listen to
And on that
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“Algorithms can steer us to a simple life.”- Leonard Lebere
The 3×3 Rubix’s Cube is fairly complicated. When you first hold it, turn it a few times, only to realise that the odds off you finishing it first time are One-Billion to One (fact backed by research). I have had the luxury of solving the cube on many occasions and the key to solving it is, Algorithms- they can equally simplify our lives.
■algorithm /al-guh-ri-th’m/ □n. a process or set of rules used in calculations or other problem-solving operations. –origin Latin algorismus.
It takes a huge amount of discipline to learn algorithms, as it took time for me to learn algorithms that helped me solve the Rubix’s Cube with ease. At times you would find yourself learning about the history of the algorithms, variations of it or how versions before the current one did not work (or were simply slower). I stumbled upon a quote that put this idea into perspective for me and I hope it will for you.
“When you first start to study a field, it seems like you have to memorize a zillion things. You don’t. What you need is to identify the core principles- generally three to twelve of them- that govern the field. The million things you thought you had to memorize are simply various combinations of the core principles.”
John T. Reed, Author of Succeeding
Algorithms can really simplify our lives, once developed we
will master not only certain fields, but our own lives and reach a level we
never thought possible- at least I have. The more time we take to develop
habits that have a frame work of algorithms, the more potent we will become in
living our lives with purpose.
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“Establishing a new level of Importance.”- Leonard Lebere
People grow up being taught the difference between good and
bad, which we can expect as normal because our paradigms get shaped in this
way. The older we get however, this idea has to shift and a new level of
importance has to be introduced. This level, is an introduction to a slightly
new way of thinking and can be introduced as the, ‘essential level’.
Greg McKeown wrote an interesting book titled, “Essentialism.” And in this book, he
introduces the concept of essentialism as a philosophical concept of doing the important thing. The level of
importance on certain activities changes as time progresses, the more options
we get, the smarter we have to become in how we choose to distribute our time.
The essential level
can be seen as Varsity Physics’ z-axis after we get taught about the x and y
axis in high school subjects. The rules are bound to be the same, but the
approach is expected to be slightly different. As we age, biological limitation
will cause us to have a declined energy level and have less energy ever decade.
With this in mind, we should desire the essentials
aspects of life to be the ideas that carry us to our grand place of
departure- where our epitaph will be read- our death bed ultimately.
We not merely called and placed on this earth to run away
from the bad and focus mainly on the good. We are called to pursue and act on
the essential, for in this very idea is where most of our fulfilment and
rewards will lie.
Here is a toast to a different life, a higher call to
discipline and an ultimately a fulfilled
life! Here is to you the soon to be
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“Having a Mandate brings the focus.”- Leonard Lebere
“How can we better focus?” Even though I am normally asked this question, I have also been asking myself this question. Sometimes our complex nature tends to complicated answers to simple questions. We overlook the simplicity of a response because we conclude that, “It can’t be that easy.” Or “It’s probably because that thought crossed my mind too.” My question is, “What if it is that easy?”
Let us agree on the definition of Mandate.
Mandate■n. /man-dayt/ 1. An official order or permission to do something. 2. The authority to carry out a policy as given by voters to someone who wins an election. ■v. give (someone) authority to do something.
As I have observed my life and the lives of those around me, I realised that irrational behavior was more the by-product of a missing mandate than what it was about focus, we then describe this behavior as lack of focus. We want to take on too much, more than what we can handle because we are missing a mandate (an official order or permission to do something) in our own lives. The idea that having a mandate gives us permission to do something we love and appreciate should prompt us to move in the desired direction.
I find it funny that we sometimes tell people, “Focus!” And while writing this blog, I couldn’t help but wonder, “What are we telling people to focus on exactly” I am of the opinion that if we tell people with no mandate to focus, we are in turn encouraging the misdirected behavior they would have already been dabbing in to.
People with a mandate (that
is written down) have a different level of focus and intensity when it
comes to everyday life. These kind of people know what to say yes to and when
to decline. They operate with great discretion when it comes to how they
distribute their time in the week. These people, the ones with this seemingly
fallacious utopia, are the kind of people most of us strive to be like-
I am definitely not a Mr Know-it-all in advising you to do
something, but my question to you is this, “Could it be that people or organizations with a clear mandate (written
out) have a better sense of focus and cannot easily yield to distractions
because of this idea?” I will let
you decide on that one.
Thank you for reading. The podcast is launching soon, we’re
in the final phase of recording. Before you go I would like to share my mandate
“I believe in a world where people are well informed, pursuing their purpose and have a healthy understanding of Leadership. I therefore wake up each day to see that dream come to pass.”
Leonard Lebere, My Mandate.
What is your Mandate? Please do share to inspire others.
“The work people do not see should count most.”- Leonard Lebere
When you look at a building, how much time have we spent
thinking about any particular building we come across?
“When was this building built?”
“Which company built the building?”
“Who is the acclaimed architect that designed the building?”
These are some of the main questions that we would ask
ourselves when looking at a stunning piece of architecture. It does not take a
lot to agree that if the foundation of any building is not 100% intact then a
collapse is inevitable for the building. The laying of the foundation has a lot
of unseen work that go deep in the ground and support not only the foundation
itself, but the building that will be erected thereafter.
We can parallel the truth in this analogy to our own lives.
The work that is invisible (done in the times when we are
not around people) is the work that we should count as important. We should have
the courage to keep quiet (on social media and in conversations) and work on
work that contributes to our foundation. We can sometimes think that the
building has already been built when we share posts on social media or in
conversations, but often times there is still more work required. When we visit
famous landmarks in the world, we rarely hear about the person that designed
the foundation, this person is often not considered as important, but lest we
forget- the invisible work has already contributed to the beauty of the
So my appeal in this blog has more to do with building our
personal foundations where not many people see us. Learning, reflecting,
preparing, studying, recording and doing the work that many count as useless;
that often becomes the most important part of our lives. May we be the generation
that does not rush to seen and noticed? May
we rather be patient and hard working in the very aspects of life that matter
to us most!
If we looked at your life, what work would you consider as
invisible work and contributing to your foundation in life?
Thank you for reading and I can’t wait to hear your
“A case for why we all need an absolute bias for what we believe.”~ Leonard Lebere
“I like A because I hate C.”
“I go to D because E does not suite
“I will vote for X because Y and Z are not fully transparent with their finances.”
We all hear this quite often when we talk to people about what they seem to believe. In most of my informal argument, I have always played the game of being a skeptic when I hear that someone if ‘for’ something simply because they are ‘against’ something else. It is like listening to child who tells you that they like the colour RED because of all the problems associated with BLUE. We can stretch it a bit further to a WIFE who loves her HUSBAND because of how all the other men on planet earth are unfaithful or are not loyal.
These words sound good?
It sounds good?
Are we missing something?
Maybe I am just fabricating a problem that does not exist?
Is there even a thing like that? Where people love one thing because of their hate/dislike for another?
As a: Jesus loving, Truth seeking and Bible defending (who comes from a hardcore Science background and being a student of Mathematics) born again Christian, I have now been on a journey oftesting what we consider ‘truth’. I started asking questions about everything I know, everything I have been taught and everything I am yet to learn. In my quest of doing research (which is what I do almost everyday) I stumbled upon a video, that referenced a book. I got the book and this book led me to an interesting chapter titled, “The Anatomy of Faith and the Quest of Reason.”I started reading this chapter paying a lot of attention because I concluded that it was fully in line with my journey of ‘testing truth.’ It got interesting real quick.
While reading, I stumbled upon a paragraph that explained a concept I was convicted by- of course with way better Oxford English. This chapter was a grand mixture of: Theology, Philosophy & Science. I finally got to understand why we fully need to be for something and why we need to be able to defend it without thinking about the opposite side. More like the technical reply speech given as a persuasion for winning a debate.
“Common sense dictates that in asserting a conviction of belief, we do more than offer a heart’s desire or present some isolated strands of the claimant’s credentials with which to leap to grandiose conclusions. A true defense of any claim must also deal with the evidences that challenge or contradict it. In other words, truth is not only a matter of offense, in that it makes certain assertions. It is also a matter of defense, in that it must be able to make a cogent and sensible response to the counterpoints that are raised.”
Jesus Among Other Gods-Chapter 3– The Anatomy of Faith and Quest of Reason.
We should probably read this statement as a disclaimer for every argument that we have, a feeling is not enough to support a logical argument. This text addresses our nature of being bias and models a path for us to test a level of truth when we have conversations with people. We should have the transitioning courage to talk deeply about issues we are convicted by, in my case, it is Jesus & Christianity.
We need to come to terms with the reality that its not enough to believe in anything simply because we ‘feel’ like it is the right thing to do. In the words of a smart Jewish Intellect, “Facts don’t care about feelings.” Said Ben Shapiro. Anecdotal (based on personal experience) evidence will not be sufficient if we try to present our cases beyond our circle of five friends, we will eventually need the empirical evidence to present a statement that carries that weight associated with our very conviction to it.
This is not a blog to try and give a Jesus case, this is a blog that has an end goal of making sure that we are people who become not only deep in our speaking and thinking, but also critical in the depth which we argue from.
I open the invitation for comments and questions that would make this blog even more interesting. Please feel free to share the link with your valued community.
“Valuable information is harder to discover.”~ Leonard Lebere
“Yes, because I googled it and that’s what Google said.” How
many times have you heard this line? Maybe, like me, you might have been guilty
of saying a statement like that a few times. Motive? We want to seem credible
and have authority when we share our comments in conversations and what better
way to do it than to mention the magic word, “Google.”
The next question we need to ask ourselves is this, is Google a credible source of information? And if the first 5 results of the search give Wikipedia links, then is the researched information still of value?
Can we all agree, Google is a search engine that then serves as a directory for our required searches. We endorse shallowness when we allow those who mention the magic word to not be questioned about the credibility of their supposed source.
So we might have to read the book, listen to the long
podcast or even watch that lengthy video.
So to really find what we are looking for, the deep and valuable information, we have to dig a bit deeper.
Thank you for reading and I hope you find this worth sharing.
“Determining whether failure is real or simply a made up fantasy.”~ Leonard Lebere
Have you ever thought about the nature of failure? When do we fail? How do we fail? Why can we fail? All these questions are relevant when you have experienced some form of failure or loss. The one question I recently became obsessed with is, “What is failure?”
There is room for arguments from both the pessimist and the optimist, but for the nature of this specific blog, I will share my thoughts to the optimist who sees the glass half full.
I recently got lost on my way somewhere, I missed a turn and before I knew it I was on my way to Neverland. I took time to stop and I stepped outside to collect all the data (buildings, street names, business times etc) I could from my surroundings. So I took a different route to my destination and suddenly I asked myself that question, “What is failure? Have I failed in my attempt to reach my destination the traditional way? Is there a way failure can benefit us in any way?
I discovered that failure tends to give us feedback. Failure delivers information to us and how we use that information determines if we are being optimistic or pessimistic about failing. The pessimist would be negative about failure and they would want to give up after failing. The optimist, looks at failure as feedback and uses the information received from it as a tool of advancement and not as a stumbling block.
I wrote about High Standards, ‘Making room for disappointments’, thinking about how the same idea applies to failure. People get categorized as failures because they did not meet a set standard. People who do not meet the standard should rather be seen as ‘people who did not meet the standard in that niche’, rather than total failures.
My generation is cut-throat about almost everything they value and not many people are willing to lower standards (which is a good thing). The one question I have is this, “Would we be better off as a generation if we saw failure as: feedback and gained information?” I leave that answer to the question in your hand.
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“Big ideas are not only harder to steer but they are also harder to turn.” ~Leonard Lebere
I recently had to watch a 12 Meter bus try to turn 180° from the direction it was going. As a learning driver, I thought about how easy that would have been if I was in a car. Turning a car (because of its size) does not need much skill. Turning a 12 Meter truck however, needs something different.
Now try to think of the car as a small idea and the 12 Meter
Truck as a big idea.
In every city I have been to, it does not take long for me to spot more than five garages that have at least one mechanic who can fix cars. Cars are relatively cheaper. There are many Television Shows that tend to highlight cars. Small Idea? Easier to steer?
Trucks on the other hand need a different skill set. The license to drive a truck is a more advanced one. There are not many truck repair garages around many cities city. Not to mention that not every truck can turn 180° from the direction it came from.
For some reason I am convinced that a truck driver would find it much easier to drive a car with the experience gained from being in a truck.
We need to think about the discipline required to take on big ideas. The reality is this, the money we make can easily be considered as a reflection of the problems that we are solving. What ideas are harder to steer for you?
“Why we need to make room for disappointment.”~ Leonard Lebere
Standards are quite exciting. Many of us have standards
because we want to define what we want and also give an accurate reflection of
who we are as individuals. What about disappointments?
In our walk, the result is quite simple.
“Disappointments is the price we pay for having standards.”
Jordan Peterson, Clinical Psychologist.
Our fear of disappointing
people should not stop us from setting standards that are important to us, even
if it results in letting people down because they had a different expectation
from us. If standards did not exist, then we would not need to consider the
idea of disappointing people.
“A thought on Social Media and Transparency.”~ Leonard Lebere
Social media has changed much of our behaviour in the present times. I wrote this article to point out some of those behavioural changes. Facebook’s data scandal made many people question their need for social media. It is a good tool, arguably though, we also need to have a huge conversation about how much we can actually share on social media; not only that but what is the level of fairness in what we expect those we follow to share too?
When I made time to think about this, the analogy that came to mind was: an open bedroom door.
We have all seen an open bedroom door. When you are visiting someone and you suddenly need the bathroom. On your way to the bathroom- there it is right in front of you- an open bedroom door. Sometimes because the door was open, you can come back and share how you love the duvet on the bed or how the painting on the wall reminds you of your mother’s room.
What we should avoid asking though, is why they opted for a navy duvet if a pure white one was going to work better. Not even why they a French painter if they could have gone for locals. That is our nature as millennials, suggestive without opinion.
An open door also does not mean that you can simply walk in the room to see what is behind the door or even count how many pairs of shoes there are in the walk in closet. And if the door is closed, you also can’t open it.
We need to have the courage to see social media in that way, an open door that uses permission as wedge to determine how wide the door stays open and if the door should stay open at all.
When we talk about transparency, we need to give those we follow permission to show us what we will see if we were just walking to the bathroom.
Because the reality of an open bedroom door is this, if it is messy or we do not want too many people asking us questions about the room’s decoration: Then we can simply close the door.
“We have a high ROI, surely we must be the best investment ever.”- Leonard Lebere
The first thing we ask ourselves when we invest is, “Is it
safe?” or “How quickly will I make a profit?” These are the questions we ask
the people who deal with our finances. We then distribute our time and treasure
according to the best investment on paper, even though at times, we speculate
when we investment.
The answer is, humans!
We are it!
We are the best investment!
We have a high Return
on Investment (ROI). We get education- we give a solution. We get a book to
read- we give a review. We get money to spend- we study markets and then multiply
the money. We get a platform- we impact people. We learn a language- we write
Like any investment, the future can rarely be predicted.
There is no finite outcome to most investments people make; that’s why many
work with speculations. Would it be safe to at least speculate that if we
invest more in ourselves we could certainly add value to society?
I guess we should not overlook ourselves as investments, we definitely
need more time and money distributed to us as human beings, because over the
years we have indeed proven that we have the best ROI.
“Recognizing the arguments we can save our energy on.”- Leonard Lebere
Arguments are fun, with them you have the opportunity to be right and prove your argument (not yourself). Discussion are equally as fun because you gain insight, especially if you are the independent one, the one who is listening.
With arguments however, you get those that are personal. The kind that make it very difficult to even ask questions because it feels like you are assassinating someone’s character. That’s how personal it can get. I find funny that we even get to that point and still need to be critical in our thinking.
There are arguments we can afford not to indulge in. When you work hard to recognize them you can predict them because they have a similar outcome. These are the arbitrary arguments: Soccer, Basketball, Gaming, Relationships and Convictions. Arbitrary arguments are in the category of personal. In these areas, we should prefer a discussion rather than an arbitrary argument.
The better we recognize the type the easier it becomes to deal with them, not that avoidance is a solution, but the latter idea of saving energy is better for some.
“Debunking socially endorsed excuses regarding time management.” Leonard Lebere
“Time management does not give me freedom.”
“I am not those kind of people.”
“I prefer a free flow in my day.”
“I have done well without a schedule.”
“Diaries are too expensive.”
The ‘buts’ of Time Management.
These are some of the most common excuses I have heard when
I either tell people about the benefits of time management or when I ask people
why they do not use a schedule to sort out their busy lives. The thing that
bothers me most about these excuses is that they are socially endorsed with a
low level of research and conviction from the people affirming those with these
I could write a full manifesto to explain why time management
is beneficial, but I want to present one idea to you that will help you think
about time management. “So what do you do when your week does not go according
to your plan?” As I was asked in an interview last week. My response highlighted
my biggest conviction about time management, “My schedule is mostly there for Direction.”
So I am saying to you
too that, time management can be there to give direction. “If you aim at
nothing you will hit something.” This is my conviction when I go into a day,
week or month with no direction (of a schedule) of how I plan to distribute my
time to reach my goals. You do not need to be, “Those kind or people.” to have a bit of direction in your day or
Sometimes we just need to get beyond our last excuse for us
to reach our full potential. Can we be people that manage their time and give
our lives a necessary direction?
“How did we end up ranking appointments we agree to?”- Leonard Lebere
Here, I present to you a thought on time and arriving early.
An email I received a day after I was interviewed:
“That meeting on your calendar, the one scheduled for tomorrow. What if it were the final interview for a job you care about?
Would you show up on time? Where would you sit? What sort of questions would you ask? What would you wear? Would you reschedule it at the last minute?
Why is it okay to act less professionally than that for a meeting with a co-worker, a salesperson or an entrepreneur looking for funding?
It’s entirely possible that we can honor a reflexive property. When we are contributing we can show up with the same enthusiasm we use when we’re asking for something.” Seth’s Blogs
The Job Interview Approach- Seth Godin
I was recently interviewed by a company in my city. I was on
the receiving end of this interview, more like if I do well, there would be
benefits associated with that and if I do not meet their expected standards
then they will consider someone else.
I find it strange and selfish that we are more likely to arrive early when we are on the receiving end of an appointment than when we are the ones who are giving out. May we be a generation that honours all appointments by just arriving as early as we would if we have a job interview!
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An Argument for why we always need to refine what we know- Leonard Lebere
Think about the death of an Egyptian Queen 200 years ago. In
nations like that, when someone with an important profile died, their bodies got
wrapped in: the best silk and linen cloths, they used the finest fragrances and
oil to smear the body and the body always got the finest tomb in the nation. The
idea was that it would a bit longer for the body to decay hence it got
preserved with a complex.
If we put this train of thought in parallel to our brain,
wouldn’t it be amazing if we could just learn something and then bullet-proof
our brain from forgetting anything new that we learn? Old age, lack of exercise,
new information and other natural causes of memory-loss and mental decay have
put us in a position where we constantly have
to refine what we know.
The idea is, if there are no mental reinforcements in place then
forgetting a piece of information becomes inevitable. We are not superhuman and
unfortunately our brains are not bionic either. We fool no one but ourselves if
we think that we will never forget something that we have learned for the first
time. This is why we as students, we go over study material over and over till
we have a sense of understanding. It is our responsibility to refine what we
We can easily equate ‘refining what we know’ to a computer
software that needs its software updated over a certain period of time. As a
youth leader and someone who has been active in youth mentorship, I am always confronted
with the need of refining what I know about leadership and Human Dynamics. So
what I did over the festive season was, I went through my notes on certain
topics including leadership, then went to my YoutTube history and watched
videos I watched a while ago. When all of this was done, I then started to
research new information pertaining to my areas/topics of interest. The main
goal or objective was just to stay
relevant. I never want to sound like an outdated software.
We can easily see this with Sports Professionals who repeatedly
practice (over and over) what they have known for years. I find it funny that
we down play the logic of ‘repeat’ when
it comes to our brain and learning new information. Sometimes we just need to
take time to refine our strengths, we can take a course, watch a video, listen
to a podcast, etc. The more information we have the greater the degree of
uncertainty we can solve.
We all have the capacity to forget, like a computer, we can
also become outdated and useless. It then becomes our responsibility to refine what
Thank you for reading. Please feel free to ask questions or
share your thoughts on this topic.
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In my recent blog The Walking Notebook, I spoke about the idea of taking notes on almost everything. Evernote has become my version of a walking notebook, because outside of my normal notebook I use it for most of my miscellaneous notes and questions. I recently started asking my friends the question, “Who is credible to give advice?” And after a couple of weeks, I have a breakthrough to my question. To explain my discovery, I am going to use a Travel Agent and a Tour Guide as examples.
A travel agent’s role is mainly to book your flights, accommodation and tours for where you are going. Travel agents normally sort out the admin and paper work of your travel. At times travel agents have never been to where you want to go, but they are responsible for selling the holiday package you desire. On the other hand, a tour guide is there to be with you when exploring a new city/town. Tour Guides remember landmarks and understand the history of destinations; they can even answer whatever question you might while on tour with them. The reality is that you are less likely to get lost when you are with a tour guide than when you are with a travel agent. You get the idea?
Let us take it further into our age of technology and information overload, how do we decide on whose advice to take when there is so much content being released on the internet? Our first reference can be asking ourselves, “Is this person a tour guide or a travel agent in this topic? I wanted to share a few points from a Leadership DVD that I have been watching, these points highlight the reasons why followers listen to leaders. I took it a bit further and started using it as a metric for deciding whether or not I am going to watch a video on YouTube or listen to that podcast, I even look for these pointers when I buy a book.
The reason why Followers listen to Leaders:
*Sacrifice- People listen because of what you have suffered.
*Insight- People listen because of what you know.
*Experience- People listen because of what you have achieved
*Character- People listen because of your integrity.
*Relevance- People listen because you identify with their needs.
John C Maxwell, Becoming a Person of Influence.
These points are not complex and we can think about them when we are searching for people to give us advice. “What has the person suffered? What does this person know? What has this person achieved? Does this person have integrity? Does this person meet my needs?” This is what I think about when I am looking for answers or advice.
I have been working hard at trying to develop a style of writing more like that of a tour guide. I would honestly be the worst person to ask about how to fly a plane or how make a million, because those are areas I have no experience in at all. You can certainly ask me about Leadership, Self-Development, Intellectualism and Self-Management to name a few. These are the few topics I have had first-hand experience over the years.
I wrote this blog so that we do not become shallow people that just take advice from every moving lip or readable text. My desire is that people would have the power to decide whether or not they want a Tour Guide or a Travel Agent. This is the paradox of advice and deciding where to take it from.
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Why a short pencil is better than a long memory- Leonard Lebere
Wouldn’t life be much easier if we all had notebooks that could walk, they would follow us everywhere and they would even take notes of almost everything we deem as important? How would our lives and conversations look like if when we meet, we all pull out notebooks and discuss points made from: conversations, ideas, lectures and all reminders? Have you ever wondered why you actually take notes in a class or why we tend to write down that which is important? The reality is that a short pencil is better than a long memory.
I have a genuine passion for learning. I enjoy learning from different mediums: YouTube Videos, Podcasts, Books, Online Lectures, Sermons. The biggest challenge was always being able to remember the information. What would happen is that I would listen or watch the content then I forget to take notes or I am just tired at that point and a few weeks later I would get excited trying to remember the information to tell a group of friends, but then I would have very little to remember because I had not taken any notes at the time. The most disappointing time was when I had coffee with an affluent leader who helped a company generate Millions in turnover; he agreed to give me 2 hours of his time and in this 2 hours I would ask him as many questions possible. He shared real Leadership essentials on how he really made it and my mistake again at the time was that I did not bring a notebook with me. I still regret not bringing a notebook because I still can’t remember a lot of what he told me. This was the meeting that really birthed my desire to have a ‘Walking Notebook’.
“You have to make your own condensed notes. You learn from making them. A lot of thinking goes into deciding what to include and exclude.”
Peter Rodgers, Author of Straight A at Stanford and On to Harvard.
I have really fallen in love with stationary and notebooks. I never leave the house without my notebook and pen because I told myself that I do not want to miss the opportunity of noting something important down. I write down ideas that I would like to take on, I write important points from conversations I have with people and I even go to the extent of writing down points of discussion to have with my leaders and friends for when I meet them. I use my notebooks to write titles of blogs, I have over 3 months of blog titles ready in one of my many notebooks. The biggest upside of note taking has been being able to remember lesson I learned from different mediums, the joy of just turning a few pages and having access to the lesson/lecture all over again is just amazing.
This specific blog is less about having a Walking Notebook but more about taking notes of almost everything we deem as important. We should be a peculiar people who take notes whenever we can and where ever we can. I challenge you to invest in a Notebook for this year, then take notes consistently and create a note-taking system for yourself. Remember that, “A short pencil is better than a long memory.”
The Real Key to thriving in the Upcoming year- Leonard Lebere
“It will cost you $5000 to fix that, but I do not feel like fixing it today!” How would you react if this was a mechanic speaking to you about your broken car? It would not make sense right, I mean he is a mechanic and it would be expected of him to deliver on what he does. Going into this New Year, what are some of the promises that you have made, maybe not in your professional capacity but promises that you made to yourself personally?
The idea of a professional promise is that sometimes we might not feel like doing something, but because we are professionals, we commit to doing it either way. I have a friend who is a Medicine student and I would not want to imagine the day I visit her practice one day and she tells me that she is not interested in finding out what is wrong with me. The reality is that we should allow our promise to supersede our feelings and if we do not, we will instead be working backwards and failing to make an impact.
John Maxwell said that, “People who take risks and stretch themselves have a greater shot at significance than those who do not.” I have succeeded in my Professional promise of posting a New Blog every Monday, I have done this for the past 13 weeks and I am excited about writing 52 Blogs next year. Many people have asked me if I do not run of ideas, the truth I that sometimes I do, but the because of the professional promise, I choose to take time and find something to write about even if I do not feel like writing that week. I am learning more about writing as I write each blog and I cannot help but point out that I am striving to get better with each blog. People can associate your reputation with the professional promise that you make. I learned this the hard way when I committed half-heartedly to a project that firstly had a lot of finances involved and secondly really needed me to keep my professional promise or I would cost the whole team. And indeed I did cost the whole team that is why I am writing this blog, to prevent others from making a promise they cannot keep.
A New Year, comes with a fresh wind and desires. At the dawn of a New Year, we remind ourselves about the Goals that we have set for the year to come. We can consider these Goals as, “Promises made to ourselves.” Not everyone will have the full desire to see through their professional promise through, this is why we finish a specific year ahead or behind of others. The difference is simply in the people who kept their professional promise.
I really want us to thrive in this New Year and I am convinced that we can do that with ease if we commit to keeping our professional promises. We will easily stand out and be recommended for our skills. Not just that but being able to take our goals seriously, I hope this gives you a new way at looking at your New Year!!
Thank you for Reading, may you have an amazing New Year.
Understanding how the Sunk-Cost Fallacy made it difficult for us to end relationships- Leonard Lebere
Think about this for a moment. Imagine a guy preparing five hours for a picnic this afternoon. The excitement grows greater and greater as the time for the picnic comes and after a long time of preparation, this guy eventually makes it to the picnic spot. Ready for the picnic only to his surprise the weather starts changing and out of nowhere it starts raining. Thinking about all the time he spent preparing for the picnic this guy decides to have picnic under the rain because he cannot get over how many hours he prepared for this picnic. If you are asking yourself, “Who would commit to having picnic in the rain?” I have an even better question for you, “Who would choose to invest in relationships that are dying or have a low return on investment?” This concept is the classic Sunk-Cost Fallacy.
Just to expand on this, here is a foundational explanation:
“A logical fallacy is an error in reasoning that makes an argument invalid. The conclusion drawn the does not follow that preceded it.”
Samuel Rochenhizer, A conscious Rethink.
“A sunk- cost fallacy occurs when people irrationally continue an activity that no longer meets the original expectation. People then get trapped because they convince themselves that it will get better.”
According to Cristopher Olivda who is known for his work in psychology, Sunk Cost Fallacy is defined as, “Pursuing an inferior alternative merely beaus we have previously invested significant, but non-recoverable, resources in it.” A further elaboration from Cristopher goes on to say,
“The Sunk Cost effect is the general tendency for people to continue an endeavour, or continue consuming or pursuing an option, if they have invested time money or some resource to it. The effect becomes a fallacy if it is pushing you to do things that are making you unhappy or leaving you worse off.”
Cristopher Olivda, Psychologist
“The longer you have been together the harder it is to breakup” is a good example of the sunk cost fallacy, besides the Picnic Conundrum presented in the previous paragraph.
I got to all this research because I am fully convinced that
I need to take stock of the relationships that I have formed over the years.
Besides my love for research and passion for philosophy, I had great intentions
when I read all the information. Reflection (thinking and writing down my
thoughts and observations) which is a tool I use to maintain a good level of
mental health, made me realise that there are some relationships that I am
still committed to only because of
invested in those relationships. I was obviously not satisfied with that
point of reflection, it is the same as committing to having picnic under the
rain because of the time spent to prepare for it.
I realised a few things from the research I did. Firstly, many people (myself included) need to rethink their definition of friends. My other realisation was that Social Media has watered down our level of authenticity, not only with the people we are connected to, but to ourselves too. The sad part is this, when reality hits and push comes to shove (a relationship becomes toxic or is at a point of no growth), we will need nothing but bravery to be able to end the relationship.
“We tend to commit to friendships because we convince ourselves that we have invested too much. The reality is that sometimes we need to realise that the friendship has outlived its purpose.”
In my time of reflection, I came to a personal conclusion that the conversations that got us to where we are in most of our relationships are not going to be able to carry us into the next season of the relationship- unless both parties acknowledge the need for growth and change. We cannot run friendships like gamblers, always thinking that it is going to get better.
“If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.”
Will Rogers, American Humourist.
Here is a concluding extract from an article I read,
“Sometimes the best move you can make is quit. Get over the stigma associated with quitting, Quitting is a sensible response when the goal will no longer deliver what it once promised.”
Samuel Rochenhizer, A conscious Rethink.
I am not a relationship-guru, but I found this information critical in helping decide which direction I intend to take in my relationships. I hope it helps you too. Please do not have picnic under the rain. How many of your own relationships are Sinking Relations?
Momentum is the word we speak about when we look at the form of a sports team. We deduce that if the team has maybe won 10 games in a row;they are bound to win the 11th game. Can we conclude the same when it comes to the months on the calendar?
I find it quite surprising that we have a full year filled with dashes and periods dedicated to rest, yet when the month of December comes, we want the full out rest as if we have not had time to rest throughout the year. I have nothing against people use December to fully rest, I think that my only contention comes with dismissing that we have had many days to rest and did not use them wisely. I know of people who still push to rest in times when they should be working; I am of the opinion that in the end people produce mediocre work because of how they manage the free time and work time.Though this is just my opinion, the bigger question is what is the role of momentum going into a new year?
A common misconception that New Year’s resolution has presented is that when a New Year comes, you become a new person and are bound to reach your goals just because you set them. The problem with this way of thinking is that because of our goals we start off the year with a bit of direction then in the 3rd quarter of the year, we convince ourselves that we can slow down because next year presents us with this “grand restart.”We do not even have to go through the Neuroscience to realise that it is a mediocre expectation to do the same thing and expect a different result, not just that but it is difficult to imagine how our brains will suddenly build new habits and neural pathways if it takes about 63 days to build a habit. A strong finish can lead to a strong start. This does not mean that we do not rest, but it certainly does point out to the fact that we at least have to have an aim to finish strong with a win.
There are so many ways to imagine yourself finishing strong.In accordance to my last blog about what do you want to be remembered for, you can treat the New Year as a human asking you, “What do you want me to remember you for when December comes next year?” Beginning with the end in mind is a way for you to stay focused and motivated to finish strong. As much as when the plans we establish might not come to pass, the least we can do is have a desire to finish strong going into a New Year. How you finish is more important than how you start, this will give you the right momentum going into the New Year.
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What do you want to be remembered for?
If you have ever attended a funeral of any sort, you will have an understanding that death has a special way of reminding us that we are mortal beings. The fact the when our existence vanishes from the face of the earth, there will be someone who will give account on how they saw us live our lives. The question is, “What will people be saying in our absence?”
Let me get a little personal. I am not a fan of funerals, a mournful environment has often been really hard for me to handle. I think the biggest wake up call was when my father passed away and I had to attend the funeral. I realised that I was one day going to die (not in a negative or voodoo weird way) and upon my passing, someone will tell people about my life. A rush of emotions came to me when I realised the importance of making the most of our time on earth.
I asked myself the question, “Why is realising that I am one day going to die, so important?” After many days of thinking, I realised that when we start thinking about our Tombstone Writings, we live life more intentionally and with a great sense of motivation. Myles Munroe said that the richest place on the face of the Earth is the grave yard. That dying with ‘potential’ would be like dying with the music inside of you. James Allen put it this way, “People are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.”
There are many aspects to think about when it comes to Tombstone Writings.It might be a bit complicated and misdirected when we have to think about our whole lives. A more simplified approach would be to think about ‘what we want to be remembered for’ in different areas of our lives: School, Work,Relationships, Volunteering. We then have that opportunity to live more intentionally and with a little more motivation. Joseph Addison said,
“When I look upon the tombs of the great, every emotion of envy dies in me; when I read the epitaphs of the beautiful, every inordinate desire goes out; when I meet with the grief of parents upon a tombstone, my heart melts with compassion; when I see the tomb of the parents themselves, I consider the vanity of grieving for those whom we must quickly follow: when I see kings lying by those who deposed them, I consider rival wits placed side by side, or the holy men that divided the world with their contests and disputes,I reflect with sorrow and astonishment on the little competitions, factions, and debates of mankind. When I read the several dates of the tombs, of some that died yesterday, and some six hundred years ago, I consider that great Day when we shall all of us be Contemporaries, and make our appearance together.”
Now the questions becomes, what will your obituary or Tombstone writings say about you? What will they say at work, what will your family say,what will your friends say? I dare you to write your desired Tombstone Writings. The earlier we ask ourselves these questions, the more intentional we will live our lives. We are mortal beings and for us, death is inevitable, the question is, “What do YOU want to be remembered for?”
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The metrics of determining whether you had a good year or not.
Definitions are important because they bring a foundation to important conversations. When definitions are not agreed upon, there remains room for many disagreements. For the purpose of this blog I wanted to define the word ‘benchmark’. Benchmark, “A standard or a point of reference.” As simple as it is, I will simply be referring back to this definition. A New Year is upon us and we are a month away from an annual restart. The question is, “How do we know if we have had a great year?”
This time last year during an end-season evaluation and investigation, I was talking to a leader of mine and he happened to ask me, “What is the one goal or achievement that would have made this year great for you?” I did not understand the question and did not even know what to say. He went on to explain that sometimes we can have so many desires for a year, but there is always that one thing that brings the most fulfillment and for him at the time, he had just finished his last semester in Business School. How would you respond to that question if someone had to ask you the same question this year?
There are benchmarks (standards and points of reference) everywhere around us. In school there is an established benchmark (standard) that determines whether you progress to the next grade or not. In University there is also a benchmark that determines if you get to write your exams or not. When we think about Health there are many benchmarks (points of references) that distinguish between a health person and an unhealthy person. Different people and situations have different benchmarks, because benchmarks are designed to be unique to wherever they are required.
As people, we have no right to be disappointed about the year we had if we had no standard or aim. Benchmarks need to stay intrinsic. The amazing thing is that even if you did not set out benchmarks for this year,you still have time now to establish them before the New Year starts. It would be a personal atrocity for you to float (have no goals or desires) into this next year. Acknowledge that there is hope for this New Year.
The idea of having a benchmark is a good way to establish whether or not this has been a good year. Taking time to set out a goal -knowing that there will be a ton of fulfillment that comes out of achieving that goal-is worth it. The benchmark you set has to be personal, because there is no benefit in embodying another person’s desires if your backgrounds are not ‘fully’ the same. Your benchmark might be to: lose 10kg, run a marathon, save 30% of your income, start a business, travel overseas, get x amount of distinctions, payoff your student loan, express your gratitude to your parents, write a book,etc. It can be anything that will bring you fulfillment within a year.
Benchmarks (standards or points of references) can be good foundations for our overall success. We should not be the people that overlook the importance of having personal benchmarks. This can become our system of determining whether we had a good year or not.
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